Robin Boisvert, in the curriculum How Can I Change?, speaks of the following summary of Christian growth:
In a day when quick solutions to longstanding problems are too easily offered, we wish to recommend the old paths, having found them tried and true. There is no short course to Christian maturity. There is no crossless way to follow Christ, no instant secret to the Christian life. But like distance running, if the way of the cross is not easy, neither is it complicated. God presents us with a pathway that is narrow yet straight. He makes his ways plain to those who are sincerely interested in following him, and he will show himself strong on behalf of all whose hearts are fully his.
So, is this kind of growth taking place in your life? Have you availed yourself to the grace to be found by pursuing this in marriage?