We all like quick fixes. A quick fix to help with your marriage is to forsake comforts. In last night’s small group curriculum, our church read the following (from John Butler’s chapter “Never Say Comfortable in Why Small Groups?):
We love our comfort, don’t we? Our urge to pursue pleasure is deep and universal. Yet there are many places in our lives where God desires to put this urge to death. This may sound harsh, but I know from personal experience–including many confrontations over my own love of comfort–that it is true. Small groups can provide excellent opportunities for us to die to excessive love of comfort by embracing the changes and challenges God brings our way.
As much as this is true for small groups, it is infinitely more true in marriage. God desires to rid us of our comforts and marriage is a great tool of sanctification in His hands to remove those selfish, cancerous comforts that exist. Let’s make it a quick fix, though, by continually seeking to serve our spouses and not our own comforts. Doing this is simply yielding to all that God wants to do in and through us.