Yesterday in my morning message, I quoted Voddie Baucham on the need to encourage discipleship in our children. For today’s Marriage Monday segment, I want to give you the quotes I mentioned and simply ask, “Parents, are you equipping your children to deny themselves, take up their cross, and follow Jesus? Or are you equipping them to a selfish lifestyle with little sacrifice following whatever their little hearts desire?” We have been given an awesome responsibility from God to shepherd the hearts of our children.

Here are the quotes I used…

“Ask parents what they want most for their children, and you will likely get the same answer whether they are Christians or garden-variety unbelievers. They will likely say, ‘I want my children to get a good education.’ In fact, that’s exactly what George Barna found when he interviewed Christian and non-Christian parents. The number one goal that they had for their children was that they would get a good education.

“I’m not suggesting there is anything wrong with emphasizing education for our children. However, our children’s education is not our primary goal. Our primary goal for our children is that they walk with the Lord.

From Family-Driven Faith by Voddie Baucham

For further instruction, you might consider checking out J.C. Ryle’s excellent piece entitled “The Duties of Parents”Parent by grace in a way that draws out the heart of your children and prepares them for the good news of the Gospel.

Thabiti has some great thoughts on questions people have asked him about “children ‘celebrating’ Santa Claus during the Christmas season.” My favorite line was the last one answering whether or not including Santa is ‘worth’ it: “Personally, I doubt Santa Claus is worth it, and pointing our kids away from Jesus at Christmas may be the worst form of child neglect I can imagine.” Check it out for yourself!

Yes, the Winter Storm filled with ice hit us. We got around 1 inch of ice. Rainfall totals from start to finish were over 3 inches. So, we are digging out of what amounts to a disaster area today. Every school here was cancelled today and many are already cancelling tomorrow. While the roads and parking lots are passable, many remain without power. We cancelled our Wed evening activities tonight due, in large part, to the many people who serve being without power.

Here are some weather stories from the local news:

More Than 130,000 Kansans Still Without Power
Reno County (Where I Live) Hardest Hit By Storm
Reno County Ice Storm Damage
Hutchinson Hit Hard By Ice
Ice Storm – Photo Gallery

Here is the headline from the local news at 12:20PM today…

MAJOR ICE STORM ON THE WAY

As a result of this, I may be at home iced in tomorrow. I am furiously trying to finish some of the major details of sermon work in which I need books in my office. But plan to take labtop, books and sermon prep material home to work out of there.

You may or may not know that my FAVORITE preacher is C.J. Mahaney. I love the way C.J. brings every message back to the cross and is so humble and transparent in his communication. His pointed application always is used by God in my life. I really want to feel the text like he does. I was excited, then, when last week, on the Covenant Life podcast, I got a sermon from him on Adoption. The sermon was titled, “God as Father: Understanding the Doctrine of Adoption” from Galatians 4:1-7. Check it out. It is my free audio recommendation of the week.

Last Monday, I posted Mark Altrogge’s tips for more meaningful Bible intake. Over at the Blazing Center, Mark’s son, Stephen, gives the following tips to encourage Bible intake:

1. Pray as you’re reading
2. Apply one bit of truth
3. Read your Bible in the morning
4. Write while you’re reading

After yesterday’s sermon on denying yourself, taking up your cross and following Jesus, I was thinking about how this concept related to my marriage/family life. As a father and husband, I need to be seeking to encourage radical Christ following in the lives of my wife and child. John Piper calls this building God-esteem not self-esteem into them. In Paul Tripp’s latest book, A Quest For More, he gets to the issue of kingdom allegiance. He summarizes the call of denying yourself, taking up your cross and following Jesus as a simple call: YOU MUST DIE.

Deny Yourself: death to the priority of self
Take Up Your Cross: death to my pursuit of my life
Follow Me: death to my pursuit of my plan

Tripp goes on to ask these questions…

Are you living as his disciple in this way? Are you following his example? Only as we die to the glory of our claim on our own lives will we begin to experience the transcendent glories of living for the Lord. Only when we are willing to the do the unthinkable (preside over our own deaths) does the wonderful (the transcendence for which we were created) become our possession.

Later on in this Tripp says, “To jealously hold on to my dream of what I want to accomplish, experience and enjoy is to guarantee that I will never ever experience true life.” We want that life that is found only in God.

Therefore, as leaders in our homes (or as wives or children seeking to follow Christ), let’s get ride of the selfish things that surround us and inspire God esteem in our own hearts and in the hearts of those we love.

I found a post over at the Said At Southern Blog very interesting. If you don’t know, usually the month of January is a break from seminary classes and time for what they call Winterm (or some sort of clever designation). Tony Kummer suggests using this time to read through the entire Bible. That’s right, he demonstrates how one could read through the Bible in January. Check it out.

Last week’s sermon of the week featured the Pursuit, a conference in conjunction with Sovereign Grace Ministries on Manhood. I want to draw attention to a specific session with C.J. Mahaney in which he fielded questions related to the topic of manhood, including how he leads his son, wife and family, how he maintains accountability with other men and other practical matters. This is a must download. There is also a PDF available which transcripts the time.

Over at the 9 Marks blog, Church Matters, Mark Dever gives the following 5 tips for giving good criticism:

1. Directly, not indirectly.
2. Seriously, not humorously.
3. As if it’s important, not casually.
4. Privately, not publicly.
5. Out of love for them, not to express your feeling or frustration.