Here’s an interesting post from Mark Altrogge (author of Give Me One Pure and Holy Passion) on what to do when your pastor offends you (and he will, since he is simply a sinful human being being a tool in God’s hands).
Among the suggestions:
1) Pray
2) Ask, “What does this offense reveal about my heart?”
3) Ask, “Is this one of the “multitude of sins” love covers or a serious sin or pattern of sin that God wants to help him with?”
4) If you can’t cover it in love, go to him. But before you go, ask, “What are my motives for going to him?”
5) Try to believe the best.
6) Forgive him in advance.
7) Go humbly.